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7 Habits of Happy Kids

This year our school is implementing the Leader in Me Program. 

Your child is learning the 7 Habits of Happy Kids as a tool for developing personal leadership

.  Habit #1 – Be Proactive – You’re in Charge!

To be proactive means to take responsibility for your choices and behaviors. YOU are in charge of your attitudes, your choices and your responses.

At home, practice using proactive language, as opposed to reactive language…

Proactive Language

Reactive Language

I’ll do it

I’ll try

I can do better than that

That’s just how I am

Let’s look at our options

There’s nothing I can do

I choose to

I have to

There has to be a way

I can’t

I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me

You ruined my day

 Habit #2 – Begin with the End in Mind!

 

  To begin with the end in mind means to have a plan! It is important to think about how you want your situation to end. It is about setting goals and making a plan to achieve the end goal.

    “I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to be a good citizen.”

 

  Habit 2 teaches that “Beginning with the End in Mind” or having a mental picture of achieving a goal can lead to a better way of doing it. For example, imagine doing a 100 piece puzzle with no picture of it finished, cooking a new dish without a recipe, or driving to a new place with no map or GPS.

         How to Do This with Your Child:

1. Have your child identify a goal that is meaningful to them.

2. Help your child visualize a “picture” in their mind achieving the goal; you could even have them draw the picture.

3. Have them break it down into manageable, specific steps; write the steps down.

4. Check their progress and offer support. Discuss final results and celebrate effort.

   Habit 3-Put First Things First    

  • I spend my time on things that are most important.
  • I say no to things I should not do.
  • I set priorities, set a schedule and follow my plan.
  • I am organized.
  • I do my homework before I play.

  This is a hard habit to keep because it often feels good to do the urgent or the easiest thing first. However, when we put off doing the most important things, like studying for a big math test, it feels worse not being prepared.

1. Get Organized: have a place for important things, like homework, shoes, backpacks, etc. Create a “school projects” supply box to use throughout the year (poster board, markers, crayons, glitter, glue, etc.).

2. Make a List: write down everything you have to do and want to do.

3. Prioritize Your List: while “urgent” things must be done, ensure time for “important/non-urgent” things.

 

Urgent

Not Urgent

Important

Homework due tomorrow

Tests

Crisis or pressing Problem

 

Homework due in a few days

Building relationships (family/friends)

Exercising, creative play, reading

Helping others, chores, service work

Talents, sports, music, dance, art, etc.

Not Important

Unimportant phone calls or emails

Other people’s minor problems

 

Excessive TV, video games, texting, internet surfing

Complaining, excuse making

 

      Habit #4 – Think Win-Win

Think Win-Win is the belief that everyone can win. It’s not me or you – it is both of us. It is a belief that there are enough good things for everyone; it is an abundant way of thinking. Think Win-Win is being happy for others when good things happen to them.

As a parent, not everything is negotiable, but if you enter into discussions with your child with a win-win mindset, you’ll find a lot less resistance.

What This Means: Think about others as well as yourself. Long term relationships require mutual respect and mutual benefit.

For Example: Think of an ongoing conflict you tend to have with your child (homework, cleaning their room, feeding the dog) and then discuss a win-win solution to the conflict. Write down the solution and then remind each other the next time the situation arises.

Remember not to compare your children in front of each other. Try not to say to Lucy that John always remembers to clear the table. That is win-lose thinking. Instead, just concentrate on praising John for a job well done. Lucy will get this message.

How Can I Do This In My Life: Treat others the same way that you want them to treat you.

Remember Everyone Can Win!!!

“Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” – Helen Keller

Habit #6 – Synergize

 

Together is better. I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions then any one of us can alone. I am humble.

 

What This Means:

 

Two or more people work together to create a better solution then either one of them would have thought of alone. It is not your way or my way, but a better way. Think of the equation 1+1=3 (or more). How is that possible? 1 person plus another person = 2 ideas + many more than either of them would have thought of alone. Synergizing is taking good ideas and making them better by working together.

 

Activities:

 

With your children, choose a problem you may have (for example, with curfew or completing tasks). Use the Synergy Action Plan to summarize your child’s solution and your solution. 1) Define the problem. 2) Share your views. 3) Think of solutions. 4) Choose the best solution together. See if you can reach a better solution (the High Way) then either of you could have come up with alone.

 

 

Institute a 15-minute program where everyone drops what they are doing and pitches in to work as a team to clean the kitchen, pull weeds in the garden, wash the dishes, sweep the front porch, etc.. Cutting "One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say."

 

 

-“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

“Two heads are better than one.” – Stephen Covey

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